Tuesday, September 27, 2011


Following is the excerpt of my response to some of questions and concerns from members and readers, sharing them for the reason that anybody with similar concern might benefit from it. If anybody has any queries, comments or suggestion, please get back to me. Your feedback would be greatly appreciated...!

How to set SMART goals, attain them and measure them?

  • Apart from TARGET, knowledge, skills, abilities and attitude are instrumental when it comes to setting goals. What you want to achieve – TARGET – should be set in accordance with what you have learnt, what you’re expert at, what you have mastered and what you enjoy to do and not what you just desire or wish. If even one of these criterions is overlooked while setting the goal, you might start losing the interest initially and focus eventually when it comes to attaining it.
  • For measuring your performance in attaining the goal you need to define steps and milestones by breaking a Target into small daily tasks. A timeline with headers like ‘What, How and When’ can come handy to achieve this. Whenever a task is completed you can review you performance with its status and score your performance accordingly like – Poor, Below Average, Average, Above Average, Good and Excellent followed by appropriate action.
How to handle stress effectively and maintain work/life balance?

Probably the most popular buzz word today is ‘Stress’ and the person claiming to teach you ‘Manage Stress’ is nothing less than a superhero or Hancock! Would you accept me as a sane person if I tell you that there is nothing like handling or managing the stress? Why do you need to treat Stress as a disease or a negative state of mind? Stress is just another natural phenomenon of overload on body, brain, mind or soul. If I asked you to lift a glass of water and hold it in your stretched hand for 5 minutes, piece of cake. For one hour – it’s getting heavier. Three hours and it’s the heaviest object on the planet and six hours – it will become a medical emergency! If the objet was same why it got heavier with every passing minute? Because of my structure, posture, capacity and reaction to that particular object. Now can I say that this object was wrong, bad or negative? Stress is nothing but nature’s alarm to make you aware that you need a break if you want wish to retain and regain your strengths and capabilities. Simple, take a break and put all the loads down for a while, rest and rejuvenate! Accept and overcome stress rather than trying to handle or manage it.

How to deal with conflicts in relationships?


Conflict in relationship is generally referred as a disagreement through which the entity involved perceives a threat to its needs, interests or concerns. In a marriage or live-in relationship this is more common as in this type of arrangements, two entirely different individuals that have a diverse language, persona, background, culture, life-beliefs, or even ethnicity, are more or less obligated to live with each other almost 16 hrs a day. The first step towards resolving conflicts is to understand this very nature and character of this relationship and agree to disagree with regard to their respective roles. To achieve satisfaction in marriage, both partners must continue readjusting their understanding of what they can reasonably expect of each other in their respective roles. Adapting to new emerging roles in relationship with faith, flexibility, sharing and caring supported by open communication and democratic decision-making can prove fundamental in the long-lasting healthy relationships.

I hope this proves useful for at least somebody in some situation...!
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Friday, September 23, 2011

This is word-to-word speech by the Former President of India DR. A. P. J. Abdul Kalam at Hyderabad. This is not a 'lecture' but an 'appeal' to Indians if they sincerely want to see the CHNAGE that they relentlessly chat about...!

Why is the media here so negative?

Why are we in India so embarrassed to recognize our own strengths, our achievements? We are such a great nation. We have so many amazing success stories but we refuse acknowledge them--- Why?

We are the first in milk production.

We are number one in Remote sensing satellites.

We are the second largest producer of wheat.

We are the second largest producer of rice.

Look at Dr. Sudarshan; he has transferred the tribal village into a self-sustaining, self-driving unit.

There are millions of such achievements but our media is only obsessed in the bad news and failures and disasters.

I was in Tel Aviv once and I was reading the Israeli newspaper. It was the day after a lot of attacks and bombardments and deaths had taken place. The Hamas had struck. But the front page of the newspaper had the picture of a Jewish gentleman who in five years had transformed his desert into an orchid and a granary. It was this inspiring picture that everyone woke up to. The gory details of killings, bombardments, deaths, were inside in the newspaper, buried among other news.

In India we only read about death, sickness, terrorism, crime.
Why are we so NEGATIVE?

Another question: Why are we, as a nation so obsessed with foreign things? We want foreign T. Vs, we want foreign shirts. We want foreign technology.

Why this obsession with everything imported. Do we not realize that self-respect comes with self-reliance? I was in Hyderabad giving this lecture, when a 14 year old girl asked me for my autograph. I asked her what her goal in life is. She replied: I want to live in a developed India. For her, you and I will have to build this developed India. You must proclaim. India is not an under-developed nation; it is a highly developed nation.

Do you have 10 minutes? Allow me to come back with a vengeance.

Got 10 minutes for your country? If yes, then read; otherwise, choice is yours.

YOU say that our government is inefficient.
YOU say that our laws are too old.
YOU say that the municipality does not pick up the garbage.
YOU say that the phones don't work, the railways are a joke, the airline is the worst in the world, mails never reach their destination.
YOU say that our country has been fed to the dogs and is the absolute pits.
YOU say, say and say... What do YOU do about it?
Take a person on his way to Singapore. Give him a name - YOURS. Give him a face - YOURS. YOU walk out of the airport and you are at your International best. In Singapore you don't throw cigarette butts on the roads or eat in the stores. YOU are as proud of their Underground links as they are. You pay $5 (approx. Rs. 60) to drive through Orchard Road (equivalent of Mahim Causeway or Pedder Road ) between 5 PM and 8 PM. YOU come back to the parking lot to punch your parking ticket if you have over stayed in a restaurant or a shopping mall irrespective of your status identity... In Singapore you don't say anything, DO YOU?

YOU wouldn't dare to eat in public during Ramadan, in Dubai.
YOU would not dare to go out without your head covered in Jeddah.
YOU would not dare to buy an employee of the telephone exchange in London at 10 pounds ( Rs.650) a month to, 'see to it that my STD and ISD calls are billed to someone else.'
YOU would not dare to speed beyond 55 mph (88 km/h) in Washington and then tell the traffic cop, 'Jaanta hai main kaun hoon (Do you know who I am?). I am so and so's son. Take your two bucks and get lost.'
YOU wouldn't chuck an empty coconut shell anywhere other than the garbage pail on the beaches in Australia and New Zealand
Why don't YOU spit Pan on the streets of Tokyo ? Why don't YOU use examination jockeys or buy fake certificates in Boston???

We are still talking of the same YOU... YOU who can respect and conform to a foreign system in other countries but cannot in your own. You who will throw papers and cigarettes on the road the moment you touch Indian ground. If you can be an involved and appreciative citizen in an alien country, why cannot you be the same here in India?

Once in an interview, the famous Ex-municipal commissioner of Bombay, Mr. Tinaikar, had a point to make. 'Rich people's dogs are walked on the streets to leave their affluent droppings all over the place,' he said. 'And then the same people turn around to criticize and blame the authorities for inefficiency and dirty pavements. What do they expect the officers to do? Go down with a broom every time their dog feels the pressure in his bowels? In America every dog owner has to clean up after his pet has done the job. Same in Japan. Will the Indian citizen do that here?' He's right. We go to the polls to choose a government and after that forfeit all responsibility.

We sit back wanting to be pampered and expect the government to do everything for us whilst our contribution is totally negative. We expect the government to clean up but we are not going to stop chucking garbage all over the place nor are we going to stop to pick up a stray piece of paper and throw it in the bin.

We expect the railways to provide clean bathrooms but we are not going to learn the proper use of bathrooms.
We want Indian Airlines and Air India to provide the best of food and toiletries but we are not going to stop pilfering at the least opportunity.
This applies even to the staff that is known not to pass on the service to the public. When it comes to burning social issues like those related to women, dowry, and girl child! And others, we make loud drawing room protestations and continue to do the reverse at home.

Our excuse...? 'It's the whole system which has to change, how will it matter if I alone forego my sons' rights to a dowry.' So who's going to change the system? What does a system consist of? Very conveniently for us it consists of our neighbor's, other households, other cities, other communities and the government. But definitely not me and YOU.

When it comes to us actually making a positive contribution to the system we lock ourselves along with our families into a safe cocoon and look into the distance at countries far away and wait for a Mr. Clean to come along & work miracles for us with a majestic sweep of his hand or we leave the country and run away. Like lazy cowards hounded by our fears we run to America to bask in their glory and praise their system. When New York becomes insecure we run to England. When England experiences unemployment, we take the next flight out to the Gulf. When the Gulf is war struck, we demand to be rescued and brought home by the Indian government. Everybody is out to abuse and rape the country. Nobody thinks of feeding the system. Our conscience is mortgaged to money.

Dear Indians, The article is highly thought inductive, calls for a greatdeal of introspection and pricks one's conscience too.... I am echoing J. F. Kennedy 's words to his fellow Americans to relate to Indians...


Lets do what India needs from us.

Thank you,

Dr. Abdul Kalaam

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Tuesday, September 20, 2011


I have shared a story of a Bronze Statue of mouse at this place earlier which was very well received and appreciated by the readers. Today I want to share a Lao Tzu story by OSHO which makes a profound comment on the political situation and fight against it in India Today…!

Most of the criminals are created by situations. Most of the politicians are created by their own ambition. Hence they are the most dangerous people in the world. And if the world wants to be at peace, politicians should disappear entirely from this planet. And once they disappear, criminals will disappear without much effort. They are simply shadows of the politicians. The politicians have created a society which is basically criminal.

Lao Tzu was made the chief justice by a Chinese emperor who thought that he was the wisest and the most respected human being in the whole empire. He could not find a better chief justice.

Lao Tzu told him, “It won’t last long. If you say so, I will accept the post. But you don’t know me, you have just heard about me.”

But the emperor was stubborn as emperors are supposed to be. He said, “No. You have to accept this post.”

The first case that came before Lao Tzu was about a great thief who had stolen a lot of money and armaments from the richest man of the empire.

The man was so rich that he was lending money to the emperor. He was far richer than the emperor himself. And naturally, he had never expected what happened. The man – the thief – was caught red-handed. So there was no question that he should not be punished. Lao Tzu heard the whole thing, both sides, and gave the judgment that, “The thief and the rich man, both, should be sent to jail for six months.”

The rich man could not believe his ears. He said, “What is going on, what kind of justice is this? I have been robbed and you are sending me to jail?”

Lao Tzu said, “According to me, you are the real criminal. He is just your shadow. You have accumulated the whole wealth of the country; you have left everybody poor, beggars. You have exploited so much that now it is a natural consequence: people will steal from you. I cannot send your shadow to jail without sending you also. The shadow alone cannot go to jail. It will go only with you.”

The rich man said, “Then I want to have an audience with the emperor before you implement your judgment.”

And he told the emperor what kind of madman he had chosen: “Just try to understand. If today he is sending me to jail, tomorrow you will be my companion in jail, because we belong to the same profession. I exploit people, you exploit people. Our whole profession is to be parasites. And you have put that crazy guy who…Never in history has such a judgment happened.”

Recognize the real parasites and original criminals…

Stay tuned and A-W-A-K-E…!

Saturday, September 17, 2011


My childhood was the time when I was innocent

when the world seemed to be fair

when my universe was around my toys…

My childhood was the time when I lived in dreams
when everyone was selfless
when everyone appeared to be a friend…

My childhood was the time when my life was full of colors
when sorrows never knocked my door
when smile was gift presented to everyone…

My childhood was the time when love was pure
when there were no obligations
when tenderness prevailed…

My childhood was the time which is long gone
tears flow from my eyes when I go back in my childhood…

My childhood will never come back but
the child in me will never go…

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Sunday, September 11, 2011


On the auspicious occasion of Anantchaturdashi, popularly known as Ganapati Immersion Day, I would like to share my view of a most heated discussion about the proposition of Janlokpal Bill by Anna Hazare. I chose this day to bring on this topic for two reasons –

1. I am receiving a lot of response from the near-and-dear ones as well as friends, acquaintances and readers, both verbally and in writing, about my perspective of this activity.

2. It is the most apt day the ‘Immersion Day’ to bid goodbye to many things.

With all due respect to Anna’s credibility, intentions and fortitude, I will like to put up few points and stories that may elucidate my point-of-view of the happenings. I will not repeat the discussions about the way of Anna’s movement or the validity and anticipation of its outcome as these points have been discussed so many times till the moment that it would be waste of energy and time to do so again.

In philosophical, theological, or moral discussions, CORRUPTION is spiritual or moral impurity or deviation from an ideal. Practically, CORRUPTION is the abuse of power, position or resources by individuals and facilitating it for personal gain in any form, e.g. by extortion, soliciting or offering bribes. Now learn and understand this definition of corruption and, while understanding that it is not about the volume (quantity) but the value (quality), just do a little exercise of own retrospection.

Buddha addressing to an enraged crowd pelting stones at a woman accusing her to be sinner, said…
‘Indeed you must punish the sinner but just make sure before picking up a stone that you yourself have not sinned in your life. Those only should go ahead who are not guilty of any sin however big or small it may be…’

Mulla Nasruddin was to be tried in the court. He was charged with undermining the state's security as he admitted that he went about, village to village saying that the so called wise men in the king's court were all ignorant and irresolute as well as lacking clarity. The king asked Mulla to present his point first. Mulla asked some papers and pens to be brought and distributed to the first seven savants. He then asked them all to write individually in their respective piece of paper, their answer to the question, “What is bread?"

When the answers were all written down, the papers were handed over to the king who read them aloud, “Bread is food," the first had written.
The second said, “It is flour and water"
The third had his own version, “A gift of God"
The fourth one said, “A dough that is baked"
The fifth had noted down, “It has different meanings according to what you mean by 'bread"
“It’s a nutritious material" said the sixth while the seventh had expressed “Nobody actually knows!"

Mulla then turned to the king and said, “When they actually conclude what bread is, it only then be possible for them to decide on other matters"
Mulla continued to the king, “How can you entrust things relating to assessment and judgement to such people who have disparities in agreeing on the food that they eat daily, yet who uniformly say that I am a non-conformist..."

In this story OSHO points out the futility of following blindly what has been said, merely reproducing whatever was passed on. What can one know when one actually does not know oneself, the very substratum of all that is known? The mystery of oneself, the very nature and character of oneself, has to be unraveled first. Lest how can one be acquainted with others?

With these two stories I would like to conclude this discussion wishing the entire human race in general and Indians in particular to –
  • Be Aware of Oneself first
  • Refrain from any activity that corrupts the being
  • Stop engaging in the unethical conduct for any reason
  • Developing a vision to the aspects of any activity in long run and finally
  • Be the change you want to see…!
Stay tuned and CLEAN…!

Wednesday, September 7, 2011

Be Happy...!

This is a true story that I received in mail from a friend of mine and apart from similitude the attitude and faith part of it forced me to share it on my blog with all my readers. I hope you get the insight and inspiration…!

Around twenty years ago, I was living in Seattle and going through hard times. I could not find satisfying work, and I found this especially difficult, as I had a lot of experience and a Masters degree.

To my shame, I was driving a school bus to make ends meet and living with friends. I had lost my apartment. I had been through five interviews with a company and, one day between bus runs, they called to say I did not get the job. I went to the bus barn like a zombie of disappointment.

Later that afternoon, while doing my rounds through a quiet suburban neighborhood, I had an inner wave - like a primal scream - arise from deep inside me, and I thought, "Why has my life become so hard? Give me a sign, I asked, a physical sign, not some inner voice type of thing."

Immediately after this internal scream, I pulled the bus over to drop off a little girl. As she passed, she handed me an earring and said I should keep it in case somebody claimed it. The earring was stamped metal, painted black and said 'BE HAPPY.'

At first, I got angry - yeah, yeah, I thought. Then it hit me. I had been putting all of my energy into what was wrong with my life rather than what was right! I decided, then and there, to make a list of 50 things I was grateful for.

At first it was hard, then it got easier. One day, I decided to up it to 75. That night, there was a phone call for me at my friend's house from a lady who was a manager at a large hospital. About a year earlier, I had submitted a syllabus to a community college to teach a course on stress management. She asked me if I would do a one-day seminar for 200 hospital workers. I said yes and got the job.

My day with the hospital workers went very well. I got a standing ovation and many more days of work. To this day, I KNOW that it was because I changed my attitude to gratitude.

Incidentally, the day after I found the earring, the girl asked me if anyone had claimed it. I told her no, and she said, "I guess it was meant for you then."

I spent the next year conducting training workshops all around the Seattle area. Then I decided to risk everything and go back to Scotland where I had lived previously. I closed my one-man business, bought a plane ticket and got a six month visa from immigration.

One month later, I met my wonderful English wife and best friend of 15 years now. We live in a small, beautiful cottage, two miles from a paved road in the highlands of Scotland.

'THE ONLY ATTITUDE IS GRATITUDE' has been my motto for years now and, yes, it completely changed my life...!

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Sunday, September 4, 2011


If you find that this poem by Rabindranath Tagore reads more like a prayer chant from a religious book, you won't be far from the truth.  The original Bengali poem which Tagore himself translated as below, was titled "Prayer".  It is really a plea for freedom from dogma...!

Where the mind is without fear and the head is held high

Where knowledge is free

Where the world has not been broken up into fragments

By narrow domestic walls

Where words come out from the depth of truth

Where tireless striving stretches its arms towards perfection

Where the clear stream of reason has not lost its way

Into the dreary desert sand of dead habit

Where the mind is led forward by thee

Into ever-widening thought and action

Into that heaven of freedom, my Father,

let my country awake...!

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Saturday, September 3, 2011

Three Stories...!?!

India was on fire with candles for last couple of weeks and on the occasion of Ganapati Festival, is feeling more triumphant than ever. This is just to make the people of India a little aware of the disposition of the professed victory over government and with Teacher's Day just around the corner, a sincere effort to get them on the REAL path…!

1. MEET JOHN DOE (1941)

A English movie written by Richard Connell and directed by Frank Capra goes something like this…

As a parting shot, fired reporter Ann Mitchell prints a fake letter from unemployed "John Doe," who threatens suicide in protest of social ills. The paper is forced to rehire Ann and hires John Willoughby to impersonate "Doe." Ann and her bosses cynically milk the story for all it's worth, until the made-up "John Doe" philosophy starts a whole political movement. At last everyone, even Ann, takes her creation seriously...but publisher D.B. Norton has a secret plan…


A Hindi movie written by Javed Akhtar and Directed by Tinu Anand has following theme...

A newspaper reporter exploits an ordinary man for few rupees to pose as a man who is fighting against the corrupt politicians and prints imaginary stories in his name to improve the circulation of her newspaper. People take him for real and he becomes a powerful leader of poor man. One day the paper prints a letter in his name that he is going to end his life fighting corruption. This puts the ordinary man in a fix. He knows that at this juncture he can't refute the accuracy of all those stories. He also realizes that he is the sole hope of millions. Finally, he buckles under moral pressure and jumps from an incomplete multi-storied building and ends his life…


“It is wrong to think that man is in the grip of determinism either of Karma or biology or environment. He is endowed with the power of choice. He can rebel and protest against unjust social order. The ethical basis of democracy is faith in the significance of man. The human person is not a mere wave on the ocean of history which fancies that it pushes the flood while it is carried on by it ... Man can cause new currents to surge up in history. It is from history that we learn nothing. Will man learn lessons from history and live with responsibility towards future?

The saga of scientific progress is spectacular and breath-taking. But morally the world has not registered an inch of progress since the birth of man. Man’s greed and selfishness increased in proportion to his material advancement. Consequently there is no guarantee that he will make a right choice and make the world safe for future. This should not be deemed as pessimism and that the world is steadily heading towards a certain doom. One bright thing about man, which ought to be borne ever in mind, is that he is different from nature and hence utterly unpredictable. No external force or necessity can ever drive him to the wall. He is essentially free, living in a dark cozy cell. He is the king of infinite time and space. His potentialities are unlimited. He can transcend his own limitations if only he wills…”

The end-product of evolution, according to Dr. Radhakrishnan, is a morally evolved society shaped evenly by freedom and responsibility. He calls it Brahmaloka. It is his equivalent of Gandhi’s Ramarajya. His ideal man is a holy man; a saint, not a genius or a man of power. His ideal man reshapes human institutions with freedom coupled with responsibility with compassion which embraces all. He does not work merely for his own salvation; he accepts to uplift the entire society around him. Thus he works for Sarvamukti – liberation of the community as a whole. He transcends his own limitations. Hence, he is unique and uninvolved.

“History”, says Radhakrishnan, “is a matter of unique individuals involved in unique events. It is those, who stand outside history that make history.” Dr. S. Radhakrishnan thought of an ordered society in which equality, liberty and fraternity are a really realized reality, a society, a haven of freedom, dreamed of by Rabindranath Tagore in his famous lyric beginning “Where the mind is without fear…!”

Source – TRIVENI – devoted to Art, Literature, History and Culture. Its main function is to interpret through English the creative writing in different languages in India to the people of all states and to the world outside.

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Friday, September 2, 2011


Here is word-to-word meaning of Shri Ganapati Atharvashirsh for everyone to understand and then recite...!

O Lord Ganesha
I Pay my deep homage to you, the Lord of the Deva-Gana
You are the first facet of the Bramha-Tatva to arise
You have alone created this Entire universe
You alone can maintain this universe
You are indeed the all conquering supreme Lord
Indeed you are the "ATMA" II 1 II

Speak noble fact
Speak complete Truth II 2 II

Protect me
Protect the one who Describes you
Protect all who hear about your characteristics
Protect me & the disciples who are under Tutelage
Protect me from the obstacles (which arise during Rituals)
From the east (Similarly)
Protect me from the West,
From the North
From the South
Protect me from above & below
Protect me from all directions II 3 II

You are the constituent of speech
You are Joy & Immortal Consciousness
You are Truth, Mind & Bliss... one without a second
You are none other than divinity
You are Knowledge of Gross & Subtle types II 4 II

All the Universes manifest due to you
All the Universes are sustained by you
All the Universes get destroyed in you
All the Universes finally get merged in you
You alone are Earth. Water, Fire, Air & Either
You are the 4 types of speech & the root source of sound II 5 II

You are beyond the 3 'GUNAS', (Satva; Pure, Rajas: Activating & Tamas: Dull)You are beyond the 3 Bodies; (Gross, Subtle & Casual)
You are beyond Past, Present & Future (3 State of Time)
You are beyond 3 states of being; (Awake, dream & Deep Sleep)
You always Reside in the "MULADHARA" Chakra
You are the trinity of Power; (Creative Maintaining & Destructive Powers)
Sages always Meditate on you
You are the creator. Sustainer, Destroyer, The Lord of 3 worlds, Fire, Air, Sun, Moon, You are all inclusive & all Pervading II 6 II

After Describing the Characteristics & Cosmic Attributes Of Lord Ganesha, Atharvan Rishi Gives us the Sacred "GANESH VIDYA" i.e. the Mantra which Reveals the Sacred Form of Lord Ganesh. The Letter "GA" is to be enunciated, following by "NA" This one word Mantra is then Potentiated with the "PRANAVA" "OM". This is Sacred Mantra. (In order to make it Simpler, Atharvan Rishi Present the above easier FASHION, Remember that Knowledge was transmitted orally in those days.)
"GA" is the first part, "Na" is the middle & end "UM" formed by the bindu is conjoined with the foregoing & all of them form the Sacred word. This Mantra if pronounced properly, has the power of revaling The Divine Lord Ganesh, The sage who receives the Mantra is Ganaka & the Metre is "NICHRAT GAYATRI" The Diety is Ganapati. Om 'GANG' Ganapati My salutation to you II 7 II

Saying Thus, The Devotees should bow to the Lord.
Mediate on the single Tusked Lord, with bent Trunk
May He Grant Knowledge & Inspire me II 8 II

The "SAGUNA" Form of Lord Ganesha is presented in the above Shloka I salute the Lord with 1 tusk (Right side) Who has 4 hands; Upper Right carrying binding rope; Upper left hoalding goad; lower left carrying Broken tusk & the lower right blesses us, the mouse on his banner is also his vehicle. He is blood red in colour; Pot-Bellied; He has elephant ears & wears red clothes. He is smeared with red sandalwood & decorated with red flowers. He is eternally blessings his devotees & was existing before Cosmos. He is beyond "PRAKRITI" & "PURUSHA" & is ever creating universes. One who meditates on him constantly, is a Supreme Yogi II 9 II

Salutations to you Lord of all Deities, Ganas & all beings (Salutations To) The Post-Bellied one with 1 Tusk who destroys all obstacles, son if Shiva The Divine Lord who grants, Boons (We bow to you) Taking your name II 10 II

Stay tuned and we will talk about a movie tomorrow...!