Sunday, April 27, 2014
A Father-of-the Bride's Message to Son-in-law
I thought I would start my speech by addressing you as the new family of my daughter. But I think it would be inappropriate because now that she is married, you are the family for her. Believe me; I don’t have a problem with that. I, in fact, want my daughter to have you as her priority now. It’s time for us to take a backseat in her life. We would happily accept it but would surely request one thing- please keep her happy!
I am more than sure that you will keep her very happy. She will perhaps be happier than what she used to be here. But like all fathers, I obsess over my daughter’s happiness which is making me say this over and over again- please keep her happy!
She never was and will never be a burden for me. She is in fact the reason why I breathe and smile. I am getting her married because this is what the law of nature demands. I am helpless in the face of our culture and therefore sending her to your home. She was the happiness of my home and will now light up your home. I am giving my world to you. Please make sure it remains beautiful. I am giving away my princess to you. Please make sure she stays as a queen. I have raised her with my sweat and blood and now she is wonderfully perfect. For all the care, love, beauty and warmth my daughter will bring into your lives, I just want her happiness in return please keep her happy!
If at times you think that my daughter has said or done something wrong, feel free to scold her. But handle her with love. She is very fragile. If at times she feels low, be with her. She just needs a little bit of your attention. If at times she feels sick, show her some care. It’s the medicine that works best for her. If at times she fails to fulfil a responsibility, feel free to chastise her. But empathize with her. She is still learning. Do understand her please keep her happy!
I don’t mind if I don’t get to see her for months. I don’t mind if I am not able to talk to her on a daily basis. I would be more than happy if she doesn’t remember me much. But, my only motive in life has been my daughter’s happiness which is now in your hands. I beg you, please keep her happy.
Dear son-in-law, these words may not mean much to you now but if you are lucky enough to father a daughter someday, you will appreciate them better when you will find every beat of your heart shouting please keep her happy!
Sunday, April 20, 2014
Following is a letter from a renowned Hong Kong TV broadcaster and child psychologist to his daughter. The words are actually applicable to all of us, young or old, children or parents! All parents can use this in their teaching to their children...
I am writing this to you because of three reasons...
A. Life, fortune, and mishaps are unpredictable, no body knows how long he or she lives.
B. Some words are better said early.
C. I am your father, and if I don't tell you these, no one else will.
What is written is my own personal bitter experience that perhaps could save you a lot of unnecessary heartaches. Remember the following as you go through life...
1. Do not bear grudge towards those who are not good to you. No one has the responsibility of treating you well, except your mother & I!
To those who are good to you, you have to treasure it and be thankful, and ALSO you have to be cautious, because, every one has a motive for every move. When a person is good to you, it does not mean he really likes you. You have to be careful, don't hastily regard him as a real friend.
2. No one is indispensable, nothing is in the world that you must possess. Once you understand this idea, it would be easier for you to go through life when people around you don't want you any more, or when you loose what/who you love most.
3. Life is short. When you waste your life today, tomorrow you would find that life is leaving you. The earlier you treasure your life, the better you enjoy life.
4 . Love is but a transient feeling, and this feeling would fade with time and with one's mood. If your so called loved ones leaves you, be patient, time will wash away your aches and sadness. Don't over exaggerate the beauty and sweetness of love, and don't over-exaggerate the sadness of falling out of love.
5 . A lot of successful people did not receive a good education, that does not mean that you Can be successful by not studying hard ! Whatever knowledge you gain is your weapon in life. One can go from rags to riches, but one has to start from rags!
6 . I do not expect you to financially support me when I am old, neither would I financially support your whole life. My responsibility as a supporter ends when you are grown up . After that, you decide whether you want to travel in a public transport or in your limousine, weather rich or poor.
7 . You honor your words, but don't expect others to be so. You can be good to people, but don't expect people to be good to you. If you don't understand this, you would end up with unnecessary troubles.
8 . If you want to be rich, you have to WORK HARD ! There is no FREE LUNCH!
9 .No matter how much time I have with you, let us treasure the time we have together. We do not know if we would meet again in our next life...!