The next important and easier said than done step of quitting worrying is what popularly referred as Comfort Zone. Yes, it could be the ease you don’t want to loose that is posing a danger of making you worried all the time and has potential of turning you into a filthy-worrying-couch-potato. Beware…!
3. Let go of that familiarity and certainty.
“Worry is like a rocking chair–it gives you something to do but it doesn’t get you anywhere.”
Unknown
”People become attached to their burdens sometimes more than the burdens are attached to them.”
”People become attached to their burdens sometimes more than the burdens are attached to them.”
George Bernard Shaw
They say that if you put a frog into a pot of boiling water, it will leap out right away to escape the danger. But, if you put a frog in a kettle that is filled with water that is cool and pleasant, and then you gradually heat the kettle until it starts boiling, the frog will not become aware of the threat until it is too late. The frog's survival instincts are geared towards detecting sudden changes.
The Boiled Frog
They say that if you put a frog into a pot of boiling water, it will leap out right away to escape the danger. But, if you put a frog in a kettle that is filled with water that is cool and pleasant, and then you gradually heat the kettle until it starts boiling, the frog will not become aware of the threat until it is too late. The frog's survival instincts are geared towards detecting sudden changes.
The Boiled Frog
Whatever you have been doing perhaps for decades feels familiar and comfortable. Even it could be something destructive as worrying. Taking a leap of faith and going into the unknown, making a change that may turn out to be positive, can feel scarier and more uncomfortable than what you are used to. Even if what you are used to is worse in the long run.
But at some point you have to make up your mind to start letting go of that old familiar part of yourself. You have to fill up the space that entire worrying used take up with new thinking. It may feel uncomfortable. It is not as intimately familiar as your past thoughts.
It can be scary and exciting at the same time because now you are not just someone who sees him/herself as worrier and that uses some techniques to lessen that. You are instead making a deep change to who you are, to how you view yourself. You are letting go of something that has been a big part of you and are leaving it at the side of the road.
One great tip that I have learned for making it easier to let go is to first accept it then to let it go. When you accept something instead of resisting it you stop feeding more energy into your problem and making it even bigger. A bit counterintuitive…!
This is useful when it comes to letting go. If you first accept what you want to let go you aren’t so emotionally attached to it and still feeding it with your focus and energy. And so it becomes less powerful and easier to just drop. As long as you resist it then it will be hard to let it go. All that worrying in your past may not have been very accurate at all, so perhaps it’s a smart choice to let go of that habit?
But at some point you have to make up your mind to start letting go of that old familiar part of yourself. You have to fill up the space that entire worrying used take up with new thinking. It may feel uncomfortable. It is not as intimately familiar as your past thoughts.
It can be scary and exciting at the same time because now you are not just someone who sees him/herself as worrier and that uses some techniques to lessen that. You are instead making a deep change to who you are, to how you view yourself. You are letting go of something that has been a big part of you and are leaving it at the side of the road.
One great tip that I have learned for making it easier to let go is to first accept it then to let it go. When you accept something instead of resisting it you stop feeding more energy into your problem and making it even bigger. A bit counterintuitive…!
This is useful when it comes to letting go. If you first accept what you want to let go you aren’t so emotionally attached to it and still feeding it with your focus and energy. And so it becomes less powerful and easier to just drop. As long as you resist it then it will be hard to let it go. All that worrying in your past may not have been very accurate at all, so perhaps it’s a smart choice to let go of that habit?
We will find out some more ways to lead a worry-free life...
Stay tuned...!
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